No Such Thing as Infertility

Posted by Juno on May 24, 2011

I used to think that a diagnosis of infertility was a life sentence.  That’s it, I’m infertile.  I will always be infertile.  If I somehow have a child, it will be only with the help of medical intervention.  But I was wrong.  After much research and personal experience, I realized infertility is not a constant state;fertility is a continuum.  Say on a scale of 1-10, 1 is infertile and 10 is that friend of yours who claims to get pregnant just be being in the same room as her husband, well, we have the power to move ourselves up the scale.  Julia Indichova { } tells a wonderful story about staring out her kitchen window forlornly one winter morning in the midst of her struggle to have a child and watching snow fall on a tree.  Suddenly, a branch on the tree snapped under the weight of the snow.  That last snowflake was just too much and tipped the balance of the branch.  You never know what will be your body’s tipping point.  And trust me, after teams of the brightest medical minds in the country told me that it would be “impossible” for me to get pregnant naturally  (and they were wrong), I no longer believe in static states.   The quality of my eggs actually IMPROVED over the space of three years.  Take that (!) doctors who cite supposed statistics that claim that every day our egg supply and quality diminishes.

But, man, I worked at becoming more fertile every single day.  Here’s a list of some of the measures I took:

  • ate mostly organic foods
  • ate dinner earlier so as not to tax my system while I was sleeping
  • avoided protein at night which is supposedly harder to digest.  Yes, I came to believe that the easier the work of the entire system, the easier it is for the body to make a baby.
  • As silly as it sounds, I tried to chew my food more slowly and thoroughly (why was I always inhaling my meals?  It’s not good for your system to have to process huge chunks of food.  And besides, babies take a long time to eat.  Might as well get used to long feedings.)
  • Avoided tofu, given the mixed reports on whether it interferes with our natural estrogen production
  • cut out all caffeine and alcohol
  • ate fruit in the morning to jump start my system
  • regularly drank red clover tea, raspberry leaf tea and nettle tea to enhance blood circulation to the uterus.
  • supplemented with folic acid, B6, B12 and fish oil.
  • cut out cow’s milk but ate goat cheese or sheep’s milk cheese in moderation.
  • did acupuncture twice a week (once with Wendy Root, healer extraordinaire: {}                                                                and once with Dr. Nie, Chinese specialist: {,or.r_gc.r_pw.&biw=1066&bih=512&um=1&ie=UTF-8&q=Dr.+Nie+Chinese+specialist,+MA&fb=1&gl=us&hq=Dr.+Nie+Chinese+specialist,&hnear=0x89e3656de973bffd:0x45c6d03655830d1c,Massachusetts&cid=13785652531412035991}
  • drankwheat grass as often as possible:
  • performed yoga positions designed to bring blood flow to the uterus and ovaries:
  • did some very deep soul-searching about how I had silenced my body for 20 years by being on the pill, petrified that I’d get pregnant before I was ready.  Came to believe it was time to start listening to my body rather than silencing it.
  • Did some very deep soul-searching about a message from childhood that a life without a child is meaningless.
  • Listened to guided visualization tapes that lead me toward fertility:
  • Prayed

You’ll have your own path towards fertility.  The point is, you can be proactive and start taking steps down that path rather than waiting for doctors to tell your body what to do.

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